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First a short notice....
We have got lot of E-mail from men whoīs in search for transexual women, a subject we donīt approve do
cooperate with, as these pages are only for support for All those true transexuals out there.
TS-network is NOT a sexual contact network, so I should recommend those whoīs after that to search further
at the net.
That about that, now to this months subject:
LIFE AFTER THE SURGERY.
This is a personal opinion from my behalf, spiced with lot of personal experiences, as Iīm studying fulltime
at Gymnasium level (College level in USA), as a so called post -op Transexual, I personally reacting on that
quite negative, as I want to say that one is transexual until the surgery, after that you are a member of that sex
you are born/changed to be.
If you are a women now after the surgery, you will have exactly the same rights/duties and expectations against
the society, and act after that fact.
Same for you changing to be a male, the same thing, all the way through.
My main suggestion is that to keep shut about your change after you have been through the last surgery, why
may some ask.
One major factor is that our society is really not so openminded as we want to believe, far from it, violence against
former transexuals and TS during treatment are quite common.
At the school, no one knows Iīve a transexual history, they donīt really need to know it at all, as I want a quiet
life after 13 years of turnmoil and distress, with a result which may be well known.
A living Hell.
I am aware of that the laws will may be different in your country, even in your state (to example in USA), and which
may affect your life at a certain way.
I know by personal experience that the law in UK is completely horrible, and really discriminating against
Here in sweden we have a law, which is truly a heaven for us, we change all personal files, citizenship-
number, and official sex in the process of the treatment, so in the last end we will be as any woman / man
in the society.
And no one will ever find out by legal ways that we have changed our sex, thatīs against the law here.
Did that looking like a dream for you?
Itīs not, itīs a reality here.
And can be that also in your homecountry if they decide to make it possible.
In the worklife, itīs often very hard to tell anything about this, risking to be had fun about or even beaten up.
Many branches are very rigid in their values, and it will propably take ages to change them even a small bit.
In the schoolworld itīs the same, rigid values, never changing, not what so ever.
My best advice will be this:
Change your adress/move and preferably also branch you want to work within, and donīt tell anyone of your
personal history, with another words, you will need a "fictious" background you can without problems tell your
Preferably a story they are unable to check up.
You can take facts from your real life in suitable amounts, to blend it out, so it will be more believeable.
If you shall study, Take care of that no one will knowledge of your change.
And by personal experience also, wait until your treatment are ready and you have your surgery done, before
you going to that school bench, to learning a new job, Science studies or what ever you will study, for that fact,
you save yourself thousands of unwanted questions.
That will also affect on the jobsection, discrimination strikes hard against our group, but if you go there with new
name, documents, etc.
Who can tell anything?
Itīs also very advisable to get something to bite in after the treatment/the surgery , a own company, a full time
studies, a new demanding work, or similar, as the danger for postoperational depression is very aware.
You have propably worked hard as ***** to get it through, and afterwards you will have a need to put the same
effort in something else, because if you calm down, you will propably be very restless and a easy target for a
I studying to a nurse today, and I will have 5,5 years of studying in front of me, a time I will use very effectively
to get a good life together with my husband.
This is a hard course to study but well worth it, with a job almost guaranteed in the end of my studies.
That may be very personal for me, but the worsest a former TS can do, is to isolate him/herself, that if something
will be suspecting in eyes of the community, no, be a part of the society, get new friends, be open and well adapted
to your societys demands.
If you donīt have got troubles before you isolate yourself , you will certainly get it, I promise.
Another advice I want share,